How Do You Win Friends?

how to win friendsI’m sure you’ve read the book How to Win Friends and Influence people by Dale Carnegie. This book has so many takeaways. I’ve read this book over and over again, so quick question….. how DO you Win Friends?

To be more clear, how do you genuinely win make people like you and REALLY mean it?

I don’t mean the mean girls type of “like”….come on… you know when someone is being fake with you.  It will turn you off like a presidential debate meme.

What’s the trick?

People love to talk about themselves.

I’ll give you a second to let that sink in.

People like others that are the same as them, people that listen to them. Go deeper into just that. Be a person that is an actual friend.

Andrew Carnegie gives amazing principles on how to be the ideal and memorable friend. He has many but I’m going to share three with you.

Become genuinely interested in other people. ..Can you smell a phony? I know I can! Network marketing has changed my life forever. Today its almost normal to not be authentic and it will never be ok! Do you have the ability to find something in a person and it doesn’t matter if it’s big or small but have a genuine interest in them? People love to talk about themselves  so how about allowing them to do just that?

Always keep a Smile! Think about it this  way, we all know energy is transferable, so would you hiring someone who is never smiling? A smile can be thought of as our business card. If your walking around with a frown or anything less than friendly, you are clearly out of business cards, right?

Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language! How often are you saying your new friends name? In the past, I saw how much of a difference it can be to remember someone’s name. I know it may sound a little trivial but saying a person’s name gives them more of a significance and this is one of the human needs. Think about it, how much more do you care about a person when they remembered something about you?

Be a good listener!! Have you ever tried to tell a person something special that happened to you and they steady on switching the conversation back to themselves? Then you start thinking about how arrogant they are and how rude it is when they do it. Could it be possible that if you do this that your listener could feel the same way? The next time someone is try to something off of their chest or just sharing something with you in general…be a good listener, it will make all the difference in your relationship with them.

Talk in terms of the other person’s interest. I know this can be a little much for some but having a conversation based on the other person interest is what is going to bring them relationship wise closer to you. This is exactly what you want, right? If you have a service that is super special, the only way for it to be present that it is by becoming more interested. I know it sounds pretty strange but the way to become more attracted by a person or anything in general is to become attracted to them or it. Do you see the irony in that?

Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely. One of the biggest human needs is to feel significant. Since it cost zero dollars to do this why not give it a go? There is a quote that says we all have an invisible sign that screams for signifance.

With love,

Candace Kinlaw

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Recommended Books to read

How to Win Friends & Influence People

Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence

The Science of Intelligent Decision Making: How to Think More Clearly, Save Your Time, and Maximize Your Happiness. Destroy Indecision!

 

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